Bullying is a very important topic which is still underestimated by most of the teachers even-though there are lots of researches existing already about the very negative effects if a child get bullied until they are adults. Even some people report massive problems they have to face in the life as an adult which are based on the bullying in their childhood.
Nearly every class in elementary and secondary school has minimum once someone who get bullied. Nearly one in five students in an average classroom is experiencing bullying in some way. The rest of the students, called bystanders, are also affected by the bullying.
What is bullying:
Bullying may involve physical aggression such as fighting, shoving, or kicking; verbal aggression such as name calling; or more subtle acts such as socially isolating another child; done by an individual or by a group.
There are always three parts in the bullying system:
A bully can be an individual, or a group of people. A bully is usually a person who does not value or feel good within themselves (has low self-esteem) or has been a victim of violence themselves. Bullying is often a way of making themselves feel more powerful. Often bullying can become their way of dealing with their own problems. Bullies can also be motivated by jealousy, lack of knowledge, fear or misunderstanding.
The bullied Person:
Everyone can be a victim of bullying, but often it is reported that people with special needs or outstanding characters are easy victims for bullying. Bullied persons have to get friends and societies help to be able to understand that the bullying act is not their fault, they are absolutely correct and doesn’t have to change anything in their life.
Someone who sees or knows about bullying which is happening to someone else, is known as the bystander. The bystander plays a significant role in bullying. Bullying behavior is reinforced where people watch but do nothing. Try and be an active bystander and act according, step in and speak up.
Impact of bullying:
A single student who bullies can have a wide-ranging impact on the students they bully, students who observe bullying, and the overall climate of the school and community.
Students Who are Bullied:
Students deserve to feel safe at school. But when they experience bullying, these types of effects can last long into their future:
Observers of Bullying:
Students who see bullying happen also may feel that they are in an unsafe environment. Effects may include feeling:
Powerless to act
Guilty for not acting
Tempted to participate
Students Who Bully Others:
Students who intentionally bully others should be held accountable for their actions. Those who bully their peers are also more likely than those students who do not bully others to *:
Schools with Bullying Issues:
When bullying continues and a school does not take action, the entire school climate can be affected in the following ways:
The school develops an environment of fear and disrespect
Students have difficulty learning
Students feel insecure
Students dislike school
Students perceive that teachers and staff have little control and don’t care about them
What Can you Do?
If you do feel any of these things, it is important to remember that it is the result of someone else’s behavior, attitude or beliefs. It is not because of who you are. Dealing with these feelings can be hard and seeking help is one way to help you to overcome them. By identifying these feelings you may be able to find ways to get bullying to stop and get the feelings to stop.
Helping Out a Friend!
If you have a friend who is being bullied and you know they are going through a tough time ensure they have someone they can talk to. It’s important that they still feel supported. If you witness them being bullied, don’t be a bystander, you can make a difference.
Bullying is not simply ‘part of growing up’. It is a destructive issue that can have serious effects on a young person’s physical and mental health.
Just two weeks ago I entered a classroom by accident and I monitored a strange seating formation: All students table have been positioned on one side of the room, just one student sat beside far away from the rest of the class alone at the desk. After observing that strange seating formation, I asked the homeroom teacher for the special reason for that formation. The answer was: “No, the students arranged it themselves since a long time ago already.” I wondered about it and try to ask the lonely student some very careful questions and I didn’t have to ask deep about it, the student used the chance directly and opened the heart about the problem. Clear bullying. And this situation is ongoing already since 6 month. How come none of the involved teachers wondered about the danger of that situation, none cares. The bullying was to be seen straight away just by seeing the strange seating formation, but none cares.
Teachers should be the first one who care about a safe environment of students. Teachers have to develop a deep awareness of those bullying problems and the consequences not just for one individual. I am saying it again:
Bullying is not simply ‘part of growing up’. It is a destructive issue that can have serious effects on a young person’s physical and mental health and not just only on the bullied person, on the whole school society. Stop bullying. Develop an awareness of bullying situations and act immediately.